I have a soul-mate girlfriend. People ask if we grew up together. We finish each other’s sentences, laugh at the same things and enjoy shopping together.  Naples, Florida, or Naples, Italy. It doesn’t matter!  

We were in a shoe store in Naples, Florida. The young man waiting on us was the owner’s son and he was helping out at the store while his father was at their store in New Jersey.

My friend and I were trying on shoes. Selecting two pair of shoes each. The decision making conversation (abbreviated) as follows:

  • You already have a similar pair; those aren’t that different.
  • I like and need the silver pair but they’re a little big. They still might work though.
  • The sale price is so good if I only wear them a season or two that’s fine.
  • If I’m dropped off and picked up at the door, I might be able to wear them for a short time.
  • They look great on you. You HAVE to get them. Your husband will love them. You look hot!
  • The strap kind of cuts my toes right here.
  • I can always return the shoes I bought yesterday if I buy these.

Our young salesman was beside himself when we made our purchases. He told us in all the years he’s been in the shoe business, he had never heard a shoe choice discussed at such length.

 

 

“We’re only discussing what most women are thinking when trying on shoes, but we’re asking each other for feedback.”

Here we go again, our angel buddy versus our devil buddy.

The young man looked dumb-founded. Yes, we women are complicated. If we’re careful, we’ll make less of what I call the “Passion Purchases” and to get there, you have to internalize your thought process. If you aren’t lucky enough to have your (in this case) SOLE-mate with you, let your devil buddy tangle with your angel buddy. If you’re at a stand-still, error on the side of caution and leave the shoes behind. You may regret it later, but it is better than buyer’s remorse and a debit to your checking account. After all, I’d rather have the money from those shoes to put toward a pair I can’t live without!

Another indication to leave the shoes behind is when you’re having trouble making the decision. That means they’re not good enough. Period. If you’re almost talking yourself into making the purchase, then don’t. PUT THEM DOWN, TURN AROUND AND WALK OUT. There will be more shoe stores down the street!

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